Midlife Crisis

To my fellow Gen X – the realization of 40(+) and the very important question that followed, “what the F am I doing with my life???”  In my situation, it’s a case of midlife crisis – I think… Either way, it’s daunting, overwhelming and downright depressing to be at the midpoint of one’s life’s cycle – assuming I live to be 80 of course.  Where did the years south of 40 went???  The last 20 was a blur with school, marriage, child, etc.  So what to do??  Change mates?  Find a new hobby?  Take up painting or pottery?  Start a new career?  Got back to school?

So what to do?

Well, the simplest and most meaningful thing to do is the start looking at life with a different set of lenses.  Forget about what pains you and focus on what made you and will make you happy.  Value the people who love you.  Stop dwelling on the negatives and focus on the positives… Keep moving forward but remember lessons learned.  Forgive but don’t forget.   Don’t hold grudges, it ages you.  Appreciate what you have and not what you don’t have.  Be kind.  Be gentle.  Be loving.  Be appreciative.  Smile.  If you’re of legal age and responsible, have massive amount of sex.  Love yourself.  Be courteous and polite. JUST TRY TO BE HAPPY.  Funnily, the more you try to do these things you will encounter assholes who will mess up your flow but all the more important to push on. Life’s happiness is controlled by our attitude – a simple tweak can bring about a momentous change.

My midlife crisis self is going to be happy if it kills me.  I hope you do too…



Wishing You A Peaceful 2015

As we near the end of 2014, we should head into 2015 with a new attitude and perspective on life.  No one is promised tomorrow so as we navigate this mortal world, we must remind ourselves that we are all God’s creatures.  We must learn to love and accept each other regardless of class, color or creed.  Life is short, precious and should be spent in the best possible way.  We must remind ourselves that humanity trumps all stereotypes.  Never forget The Golden Rule:  Do unto others as you would like them do unto you ~ Luke 6:31



Peace be with you all in 2015!!

Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)

Many of us have something about ourselves that we don’t like i.e. nose, legs, behind, etc. While some accept their “faults” and live happy lives, some go the surgical route. I am an advocate for happiness so whatever makes someone happy within reason, I support it.

What’s troubling is America’s infatuation and obsession with huge breast, duck lips and gigantic derriere.  The price for vanity can sometimes be fatal and our media is playing a major role in publicizing such unhealthy fixations.   There is no way to inflate one’s behind safely – somewhere down the line there will be problems.  My message to women everywhere: be your own original not someone else’s copy, especially, not of a celebrity.  Is the quest for the biggest behind a result of BDD or attention?







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Florida City Wants To Extend Sagging Pants Ban To Women

Sagging pants should be banned in every city and state.  There is nothing attractive or sexy about sagging pants regardless of gender.

stop_wearing_pantsOPA-LOCKA, FLA. –  Women with saggy pants aren’t welcome in Opa-Locka.

While the South Florida city banned pants that expose undergarments in 2007, commissioners are considering revising the ordinance to allow police officers to ticket men — and women — who violate the rule.

The Miami Herald reports Commissioner Dorothy Johnson is sponsoring the change. She says she believes some women in the city need to improve their image. She wants to get some community feedback before offering the potential ordinance revisions in December.

Violators currently face a $500 fine, which is double the original amount, or 25 hours of community service. Sentences are determined during a hearing by the city’s code enforcement board and a city magistrate.

So far this year, 72 people have been ticketed for wearing baggy pants.

Via Fox News


Mayor Bloomberg Famous Quotes

Once a likable politician, Mayor Bloomberg showed his true personality as the end of his term approaces – his notable battles include but are not limited to: soda size, marijuana, stop and frisk policy, NYPD excessive force and brutality, etc.  Stop and frisk could have been a good policy if it was used fairly…

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1. The Bathroom Is Where Your Career Goes To Die: “Don’t ever take a lunch break or go to the bathroom, you keep working. You don’t ever know when that opportunity is going to come along.”

2. Bloomberg On His Penchant For A Woman In Heels: “I like women and I think that they look stunning in high heels — not that they look bad without high heels. I wouldn’t criticize anybody. But, if I were a woman, I think I would wear high heels.”

3. Homeless Shelters Are The City’s Latest Hotspots: “We have made our shelter system so much better that, unfortunately, when people are in it, or, fortunately, depending on what your objective is, it is a much more pleasurable experience than they ever had before.”

4. City Hall > White House: “I have my own army.”

5. Medical Marijuana Is A Half-Baked Lie: “Medical, my foot. There is no medical. This is one of the great hoaxes of all time. The bottom line is, I’m told marijuana is much stronger today than it was 20, 30 years ago. That’s one problem. No 2, drug dealers have families to feed. If they can’t sell marijuana, they’ll sell something else. And the something else will be something worse. The push to legalize this is wrongheaded.”

6. Racial Profiling Is Also A Lie; Police Aren’t Stopping And Frisking Enough Minorities: “The racial profiling bill is just so unworkable. Nobody racially profiles.” Also: “There is this business, there’s one newspaper and one news service, they just keep saying, ‘Oh it’s a disproportionate percentage of a particular ethnic group. That may be, but it’s not a disproportionate percentage of those who witnesses and victims describe as committing the murder. In that case, incidentally, I think we disproportionately stop whites too much and minorities too little.”

7. Why Not Show Appreciation For A Woman’s Derriere: “Look at the ass on her.”

8. Stop And Frisk Works As Long As It Does Not Affect Me Personally: “If I had a son who was stopped, I might feel differently about it.” (Mayor Bloomberg has two daughters)

9. Drones Are Scary But They’re Here To Stay: “It’s scary, but what’s the difference whether the drone is up in the air or on the building. I mean intellectually I’d have trouble making a distinction. You can’t keep the tides from coming in. We’re gonna have more visibility and less privacy. I don’t see how you stop that.”

10. Homeless People Don’t Sleep On The Street: “Nobody’s sleeping on the streets.” (Maybe not the street he lives on)

via Huffington Post

11 Lessons For Today’s Woman By Jane Eyer

We can all use some good advice from time to time.


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1. You can overcome your past, no matter how bad it is. Letting go. “Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.”

2. “Your will shall decide your destiny.” You can do whatever you want to do. It is up to you, and how much you really want something determines whether or not it will happen.

3. Tell the guy you want to date him already!  Just ask him out. It will be a lot less painful than pining away in silence.

4. Loving and respecting yourself is essential, and is the key to independence. Care for yourself

5. Be positive. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

6. Don’t ever let anyone tell you you can’t do something just because you’re a woman. 

7. You are stronger than you think. No matter what happens to you, you will find a way to overcome; as humans, we are resilient. We bounce back.

8. “Most true is it that ‘beauty is in the eye of the gazer. Stop obsessing with your looks.

9. The possibilities for life are endless for those who take risks. Don’t be afraid to take chances.

10. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.  Sometimes confrontation is the key to letting go. It is much better to talk about things than to harbor unspoken resentments. 

11. If you choose to get married, do so only for love. Jane Eyre doesn’t think you should settle for anything less than true love. She’d rather be alone than marry someone who is not her kindred spirit. She states, “…I do not want a stranger–unsympathizing, alien, different from me; I want my kindred: those with whom I have full fellow-feeling.”

 via Huffington Post